about riece

Mother of five.
wife for two decades.
horse girl.
learner.
coach.

The memories of my former life are getting fuzzier now.  

A life where 80% of my brain space was occupied with an ever-growing list of grievances against myself, my kids, my husband, my house, and the world at large (why the hell did my daughter’s fourth grade teacher assign so much homework!?) — and the other 20% was just concerned with keeping us all afloat.

I constantly wondered how much more I could take.

Was it supposed to be this hard?

As awful as that time was, I wouldn’t take it back even if I could. 

Why?
Because that struggle paved the way to more joy, passion, and heart-bursting love than I ever could have imagined.

My kids still fight and often don’t do what I ask the first time I ask it.

My husband still doesn’t always see things the way I do.

My house is still a mess more often than it’s tidy.

From the outside… not much has changed.

but from the inside,

 

this life of mine is almost unrecognizable.

3 shifts that changed absolutely everything

1

Life isn’t supposed to be happy all the time.

Living a full life means experiencing sadness, disappointment, anger, and hurt.  Accepting this truth meant that I could stop adding layers of resistance and shame, which only prolonged negative emotion.

2

Unconditional love is an inside job.

I wanted to show love to my husband and my kids EVEN WHEN they were having a bad day, making less than ideal choices, or falling to pieces.  But when I couldn’t show that kind of compassion to myself, there was no way I could give it to them.

3

You can’t pour from an empty cup.

I told myself that by prioritizing my family above all else, I was being a good wife and mother.  LIES.  I’ve been chasing my dreams for the last few years and while it means less time at home, my family is getting a happier, more excited version of me, who no longer needs them to be a certain way so I can feel good about myself.

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